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You are the prayer
You are the prayer
You are the prayer
You are the prayer
You are the prayer, the song
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Throughout our lives, we make a lot of choices. Some work out, some don’t. Over time, as we look back and reflect, we often see our mistakes as some kind of internal flaw, an obvious defect that, had it been corrected much earlier, would have changed the course of our lives. This thinking leads to a deep lack of trust – in people, in situations, and most especially in ourselves.
When we feel we can’t be trusted to make the best decisions for our own lives, it jars our belief in ourselves as a person. We feel unworthy and in need of someone or something outside of us to help guide and direct us. We start to give up our power, our direction, our belief that we can take care of ourselves in the best way.
Sometimes, this trust is broken by an external event. Our children leave home and need us less, leaving us feeling empty and unsure of what to do next. Our spouse makes the decision to move on without us. We face a traumatic loss that causes us to question everything. No matter our great choices, life is now different and our trust in the patterns and expectations of life are shattered.
Grief, anger, fear, shame, and sadness are all emotional results of loss of trust. When we lose trust in ourselves, we grieve this loss. We carry a sadness that can be masked and avoided by busyness yet still lurks below the surface. We feel shame that we made these choices or allowed these things to happen to us, even when we didn’t actually have that kind of control. We get angry at the unfairness of it all, yet retreat back to our corners in fear that one more wrong choice will create more pain.
I remember the day someone told me I carried a great sadness. I was shocked. I didn’t feel sad. What did I even have to be sad about? Then I started observing myself more closely, especially in the quiet times when I was alone. I recall sitting in my car one morning during my commute and feeling the heavy weight of sadness like someone had draped a wet blanket over me. It was both nauseating and suffocating.
Had I always been this sad? How could I have avoided feeling this for so long?
It wasn’t until I started to allow more stillness into my life and to peel back the layers of blame for choices that didn’t turn out like I’d hope – so many not even my own – that I started to release the sadness, grief, anger, shame, and fear.
In my personal work and work with others, I’ve realized that much of our avoidance of issues comes from overthinking to the point that we drown out our inner guidance. Our inner guidance tells us that we ARE worthy, we ARE to be trusted, we DO make good choices for ourselves, and we CAN’T control other people or take the blame for their choices, even if they affect us. Yet, to get to that place, we have to sit through the voices the yell the opposite. We have to be still long enough to tell those voices to be quiet, so we can hear the real truth within. And it’s difficult. One of the most difficult things we will ever do is to confront those voices that steer us away from our inner guidance and truth. It’s also one of the most uplifting and healing.
I offer you a few techniques that have helped me and other women who’ve reached that place where they’re ready for radical change. That place where the risk of staying put and accepting the lack of trust is no longer worth the painful side effects. That point in time where something inside stirs and whispers, “enough is enough.”
If you’re at a point in your life where you’re feeling the weight of sadness, grief, anger, shame, or fear affecting you and you’re ready to do something about it, I stand with you on your journey, and I summon for you the collective energy of all the women before you who have taken this step.
Trust that you are worthy. Trust that you are enough. Trust that the healing can begin. And if you need one-on-one support, feel free to reach out to me.
Love and light,
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The Angels remind us that abundance comes from faith, trust, and being. Like happiness and peace, we don’t obtain abundance from perfect relationships, perfect jobs, perfect life circumstances, or from the collection of “stuff.” Abundance, happiness, and peace and inherent. We only need find them within ourselves.
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When you feel the world closing in
When you feel so tired
When the pain is too much
When the dark night swirls around you
Seek us there, if you will
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This time of year brings with it the experience of transition. All around us the weather is transitioning from warm to cool. Trees are transitioning from green to multi-colored to completely bare. Children are transitioning back to school. We are all transitioning from the carefree feeling of summer to the buttoned-down feeling of the winter months.
None of these transitions are bad. They’re simply the natural cycles of the seasons and of life. Yet, often the transitions we experience this time of year bring up difficult feelings of pain, loss, and sadness. Children going back to school requires letting go and an awareness of the loss that comes with growing up and out. The process of trees releasing their leaves also brings an awareness of loss, despite the variety of warm and beautiful colors. The buttoning down that we do is both an exercise in keeping warm during cooler temperatures, as well as a practice of symbolically protecting ourselves during this time of change and vulnerability.
Fall has historically been a difficult time for me. My mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer in July, and transitioning into that fall poignantly marked a series of endings for me. With every leaf that fell, I saw my time with her slipping away. With each cold breeze, I felt the chill and emptiness of knowing she would soon be gone.
At age 27, I didn’t have any tools to help me navigate my feelings during that time, or for many years afterward. So, like many people, I simply powered through, trying to get through fall and winter as best I could until the renewal of spring would come again. I know I’m not alone in this. I interact with so many women who share their avoidance of feelings like pain, loss, sadness, and even grief. In most cases, we avoid not only because it’s difficult, but because we’ve not been given the tools to approach our feelings in a healthy way. Our lives are busy; there’s no time for difficult emotions.
What if we had the tools at our fingertips? What if we took the time to really allow the difficult feelings to move through us?
Fall would have a whole new meaning.
I have a favorite quote that floats around social media land this time of year:
“The trees are about to show us how lovely it is to let the dead things go.” ~anonymous
Letting the dead things in our lives go is some of the most difficult work we’ll ever do. It also gives us a freedom we may not have ever experienced before. Imagine if the trees kept all the old, dead leaves AND grew new ones each year. The branches would increasingly become weighted down, eventually snapping under the weight of the excess leaves. Or the decaying leaves would create disease in the once healthy trees, which would eventually spread to the trunk, the roots, even to other nearby plants.
Nothing living is nourished by something dead. Trees know when to shed what no longer serves them and provide space for growth and renewal. We can learn skills in our lives to do the same. Below are three simple tips to get you started.
Get it out – Talk to a friend or therapist, join a sacred women’s circle, keep a journal, write a blog, pen a poem, practice morning pages….anything that tangibly gets the thoughts out of your head before they get and stay lodged in your body. Unprocessed feelings become thoughts which become stuck in your energy body and eventually affect your physical body. They eventually come out as physical pain, depression, anxiety, or other issues that affect your ability to function in a healthy way. Getting it out of your system, even if you just tear up the page and never show it to anyone (even yourself), helps process those feelings and let them go from your energy field.
Stay grounded – Salads may be the choice for health-consciousness, but warming root vegetables and hearty soups help keep us grounded during times of unrest, especially in the fall. It’s natural that we crave warmer foods during this time. Go with your body’s natural urging (or gently redirect your taste buds toward more seasonal foods) and indulge in sweet potatoes, carrots, fresh dark greens, squash, beans, warm spice teas, and even dark (the more cacao the better) chocolate.
Balance your energy – Transitions –and the feelings that come with them—often catch us off guard and knock us off balance. It’s much easier to deal with the feelings when we have practices in place that keep us feeling balanced and secure. Regular energy healing treatments and mindfulness practices (such as meditation) help balance your energy and help you regain your sense of peace. From that peaceful, balanced place, you can feel safe to open yourself to any feelings that come and process through them.
If you’re ready for deeper, more transformational work around a transition you’re currently experiencing, contact me for a FREE call to see if my Healing from Transition: 7 Steps to Rebuild Your Life, Reconnect to Yourself, and Rediscover program might be a good fit for you at this time in your life.
Love and light,
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